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Ashley DelBello Coaching

What Got You Here, Won’t Get You There

What To Do When You’re Resisting Change in Your Business or Career

“What got you here, won’t get you there”.

Have you ever heard that or been told that?

I used to cringe and maybe, possibly even get a little bit triggered when I heard this. 😅

And this was just last year.


Because I had gotten comfy with where things were and the way I was doing things. 

Of course, I still wanted to grow my biz, deepen my coaching expertise, and add in new coaching and business skills, but on the flip side I was also saying things to myself such as:

  • Why can’t I just keep doing the things I’ve been doing; they’re working; I like it/the way things are.
  • Doing more and/or new and different things sounds like a lot more work. I don’t want to burn out again like I did when I was in corporate.
  • It sounds like too much effort. I got into entrepreneurship because I had a vision of less draining and more fulfilling work.
  • I got into biz to do it on my terms. I don’t want to put in too much structure. I like my freedom and flexibility. And structure feels restrictive.

I think deep down that I knew I would need to change it up, but I didn’t want to yet. 

I was also scared. 

That I wouldn’t be able to do it. Or that I would fail or not be able to take my business to the next level – creating more offers and services, leading a team, speaking opportunities, increasing my marketing efforts, etc. 

Even though I have lots of evidence to show that I’ve done a lot of new and different things (you do too, btw); I’ve handled lots of different situations, growth, opportunities, etc. 

Brain’s gonna brain. Yes, even a Coach’s brain. 

So, for a while, I kept doing things the same, I kept resisting changing things up. I kept letting my thinking, my stories and my ego get in the way.

All the while, I was waiting and hoping that I was going to be the outlier in this thing called business. 

And guess what, I learned the hard way that “what you got you here, won’t get you there” has some real merit to it…and the longer you resist it, the longer it takes for you to get “there”.

Because eventually my business became stagnant. And if I wanted to keep going in it (and, that’s a resounding YES for me), then I was going to need to be open to change. As well as get creative. As well as drop all my stories I had around it. 

This is same/same for your career, too, for those of you who aren’t biz owners. 

And, so I started doing new and different things (even if I was scared). I evaluated seeing what worked and what didn’t work. I got more focused and disciplined in my biz. I found things I was excited to learn more about (and some things I wasn’t so excited about, but knew they were crucial for my success).

I also got support – both in terms of coaching and a virtual assistant. I found a way to be more disciplined in a way that flowed for me.

Most importantly, I did the inner work. I worked on my own belief of me having what it takes to take my business to the next level, to be the successful leader and CEO of my business.

Truly embracing what I desire to be, do, have in my life, and the mindset of “what got you here, won’t get you there”.

Embracing being the CEO of my business, and navigating what I want and need to do, so I can have more impact in my business, with my clients, in my personal life, and ultimately the world.

I share all of this, so you can hopefully avoid some of this in your own life – personally and professionally. And also know that it happens.

With that, I invite you to ask yourself:

🌱 Where are you resisting changing things up in your biz or career because you’ve gotten a little too comfy and hey the results aren’t too bad…but you know they could be so much more?

🌱 Do you want to keep paying the price of resistance + avoidance? Or do you choose to address it and make some shifts?

🌱 What are those shifts? What thinking, ways of being as well as things do you need to let go of or stop doing to make those shifts?

🌱 What do you need to shift in your mindset or belief about yourself to take one step toward what you truly desire?

🌱 What would happen today if you took the first step toward what you really wanted instead of thinking about it?

I’d love to hear what comes up for you as you work through these questions. Maybe take some time tomorrow morning or over the weekend to journal on them. Or reflect on them while you’re out on a walk.

As always, feel free to send me a message with any questions, feedback or anything else you’d love to hear from me on. I’d also love it if you’d give me a follow on Instagram so we can stay better connected.

I know I certainly love it when I hear from you.

xoxo Ashley

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